Harper College will be closed Monday, December 23 through Wednesday, January 1 for Winter Break.
“Are you okay?” Three little words that made all the difference.
That’s what Harper Counselor Shari Pergricht asked Lilly Vasquez one day during a
counseling appointment. “I just broke down in tears,” recalled Lilly. Lilly had been
taking classes sporadically at Harper, as time and money permitted. She could only
be away from home for a short period of time without raising her husband’s suspicions.
He didn’t approve of her getting an education; he was emotionally, physically and
psychologically abusive. Married for 20 years and the mother of three children, Lilly
felt trapped.
“Little by little my abuser chipped away at my confidence to the point where I felt
I could not survive without him,” recalled Lilly. When Shari heard Lilly’s story,
she asked Lilly if she would like help. With Lilly’s permission, Shari referred her
to WINGS, a local not-for-profit organization that provides a pathway to independence
for adults and children who are escaping from domestic violence and abuse. “The people
at WINGS listened and helped me figure out what kind of help I needed,” shared Lilly.
“I needed to work on myself. I had low self-confidence and difficulty making decisions.”
With the resources she was provided, Lilly came to the conclusion that she needed
to get a college education in order to better herself and her family. And she needed
to do it quickly if she was going to leave her husband. There was still one big hurdle.
She wanted to come to Harper, but she had no idea how to pay for it. At her cousin’s
suggestion, she inquired about the Rita and John Canning Women’s Program.
Through the Women’s Program and the Harper College Educational Foundation, Lilly was
able to put a plan together and receive a scholarship that is helping her make her
dream come true. “I am working on my prerequisites so I can apply for the dental hygiene
program next year. It is a well-paying profession and matches my people-person personality.
It will also give me a fairly quick path to success since I have left my husband and
am on my own,” commented Lilly.
As a community college, Harper serves a wide range of students. We understand there
is more to our students than meets the eye, and most of the time we won’t find out
what is going on unless we ask. Shari has years of experience working with students
as they navigate Harper - after 23 years as a full-time Student Development Counseling
faculty member, Shari retired and has been working as an adjunct counselor for the
last 4 ½ years. When she meets with a student, she is always assessing the way a student
presents him or herself. How do they sound? How do they look? “It is about asking
the right question at the right time in order to figure out where the student is at
in that moment,” said Shari. One question that Shari often uses to open the door to
a conversation with students who are having academic difficulties is, “What is getting
in the way of you doing well in school?” Lilly echoed this sentiment, “Students don’t
open up about personal issues. Don’t be afraid to reach out to a student.” If a student
does disclose personal issues that need to be addressed, Shari noted that Harper’s
counselors are available to assist any student and encourages all faculty and staff
members to refer students to the Academic Advising and Counseling office.
“Harper is my means to my goal – to be independent, support my family and build a
better life for all of us. I am grateful to Harper, WINGS and the Women’s Program,
and I am excited for my future.” Lilly is also proud of the example she is setting
for her children - all three of them are pursuing their education. Her son was in
the Air National Guard and is now taking courses in aeronautics. Her middle daughter
is completing her training at Kendall College and has already secured a position at
Boka in Chicago. As for her youngest daughter, she is currently enrolled at Harper.
“We both attend Harper – we carpool together, we have lunch together. It’s wonderful.
My daughter is taking honors classes. I am so proud of her.”
Lilly was touched to hear that Harper was making care kits for WINGS as part of the
50th Anniversary “Doing More Together” Giving Back Initiative. So much so, she wanted
to send a message to the volunteers, “What you are doing is a beautiful thing that
will definitely touch a woman’s heart and give her the boost of confidence that is
much needed in this stage of her life. Thank you.”